Dialectical tensions arise when two conflicting or opposing forces coexist, two, that contradict each other by opposing their existence.
We are going to examine three dialectical tensions that occur in our everyday life and how they lead to conflict and conflict leads to a healthy, satisfied, and happy relationship. This is definitely the case with those pairs of tensions that are between us and those between us and our spouse or co-spouse or co-parent or co-caregiver. Be aware of those dialectical tensions you are facing within yourself.
When we feel insecure in an interpersonal relationship, we tend to take the risk of changing our words without thinking of consequences. For example, “it is over”; “it happened to me”; “I am not that important”; “I am getting married soon”. We are very happy at the end of the day because we do it without thinking about if we did it too well.
When two contradictory forces exist, we are facing a dialectical tension of two opposing forces, two opposing forces exist and have to be considered both ways. Each of the two forces are opposing each other, so each must be seen as both as good and to be regarded with consideration.